“When the sun shines everybody smiles”
LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
When you live with a debilitating chronic illness it is so important that you spend some time focusing on yourself and choosing to do tiny things that makes you feel that little bit brighter. We can often get caught up in our daily lives and get so consumed by our illnesses that we just don’t take time to sit back and do something that makes us feel just that tiny bit better about ourselves. Sometimes you have to be selfish and just tell your loved ones/ friends/ family that you need some time for yourself and indulge yourself in an activity that you will benefit from. It could be that you sit and do your hair all nice, paint your nails, put on your make-up, getting dressed, so many things that at the end of the day you can say ‘yes I stayed home all day, had a sleep on the sofa, had to cook dinner for when the kids come home from school but you can also say that what I have done is taken time to myself to do something that has boosted my self esteem and made me feel more confident about myself’. If it means putting on your make-up when you still have your pyjamas on that’s totally okay, as long as you do something that makes you feel better – that’s all that matters! They say that self love is the best medicine!
“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself” – Maya Angelou
I know that I personally find it very difficult to love myself and since being diagnosed with multiple chronic illnesses it has become so much harder to come to the realisation that this is how my life is at the moment and could be for many years to come. This makes it even more important to love yourself more, take time to do the things you love and do things that will make you feel more happy and confident in yourself. I know how hard this may sound and I definitely find it something extremely difficult to do myself but every day you need to put yourself at the top of your to-do list because you are the most important and you deserve the very best! Remember that it’s okay to rest, you are doing the best you can.
Different ways we can practice self love in our everyday
Say ‘no’ when you need to. – Something that I myself and I’m sure many others find very difficult to do but sometimes you have to be selfish and just take a step back and think about yourself.
Don’t compare yourself to others – I know that living with a chronic illness it’s very easy to compare yourself to those who are healthy and another one which is difficult is comparing yourself to how you were before becoming ill.
Be honest with yourself
Take good care of your body
Ask for help when you need it – I know that asking for help is something that we all struggle with. Asking for help is in no way admitting defeat, it is saying that today I may just need a tiny bit of help to get me through the day. It is in no way saying that you may not be able to do it tomorrow.
Pamper yourself – It is definitely okay to pamper yourself every so often, whether that’s painting your nails, putting on your make-up, going for a massage or to go and have your hair done. Something that will make you feel better and more confident about yourself.
Fall in love with yourself
Let go of what you can’t control
Let yourself rest – When you live with a chronic illness it is so very important to let yourself rest. We all know too well that without rest we will make ourselves more sick, we have to remember that we can’t do everything that a healthy person can do so make sure to take as many rests as you need.
Don’t look back on the person you used to be – I know it can be easy to look back on the person you used to be before you got sick and to think about all of the things you used to be able to do and all of the time you used to spend socialising with your friends and family but you also have to remember that we are not that person anymore and we have to focus on what’s ahead of us, and not behind.
Hope you are all out enjoying the sun, and please remember use self care in your everyday.
All my love,